Specifically the latest thing I have had to "let go" of is the fact that Aspen has really moved beyond nursing. I have been struggling with her lately and finally I realized it's just not worth anyone's stress...her's, mine, or Jason's. So now I am pumping like a machine (haha..literally) and supplementing with formula. She gets two bottles of formula a day plus a bottle of breast milk at night. When she wakes up in the morning she still doesn't mind nursing, so we still have that one last bonding time together. Then she eats solids for breakfast (8am), an afternoon snack/lunch (12pm), and dinner (4pm). I know lots of woman who would love to move beyond nursing, but for me it was a very easy process and I loved the time I spent with Aspen. It's just a new chapter that we have opened.
For anyone who hasn't had a child yet, my advice is don't be so judgmental on mother's. I think I use to judge people a lot until I actually became one and realized that we are only trying to do the best for our child and some times the plan doesn't go how you thought. Roll with the punches...my new motto.
Of course I had to include some cute photos of my princess because let's be honest that's what it's all about! Thanks for letting me share with you all...
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Also, Jason traveled up to Dallas this past weekend to go to his second godchild's baptism. Here he is with Trevor and the godmother.
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Here he is with both of his godson's, Cameron and Trevor.
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My motto is that every baby is different and you do what is best for each particular baby and parents. You and Jason are doing a wonderful job and you can tell because you have a happy and beautiful baby. Can't wait to see her again.
I love the picture of her naked in the crib. I think karma has bitten me in the butt a few times because I was judgemental before having kids of my own. It's definitely easier to be a mom when you don't have any kids. :)
Don't feel bad about giving Aspen formula. It's better that she has a full tummy. It was hard for me to come to that conclusion at first too, but I figure he's still getting the benefits of breast milk...plus he gets the vitamin D and iron in formula...I guess it's the best of both worlds. What formula do you use? I have some Infamil that I probably won't use...
Right now I'm using Similac, but I've heard from a few people that the Costco Kirkland brand is just as good and a little cheaper. What are ya'll using?
I love the first picture. The afternoon sunlight hitting her face is perfect.
I like your new motto.
Hold on for a moment, Dzubinskis. You know, I have been thinking of the wonderful passage that I read in your post, and I was very affected, as it is full of the love and adoration that one would expect of proud and tired parents. Nonetheless, I have concluded, dear Friends, that you must consider the possibility of continuing to be hard on yourself. Have you wondered if it is precisely that characteristic which actually serves you well? What if that is the edge that separates you from most of the dreary survivalists that barely and questionably keep the species afloat? Let's be real here: Americans are spoiled well beyond the banana bread stage, and no one with an IQ above 87.5 will argue with that unless they're just plain mental. The dilemma is how to stop passing that easy self-centeredness on to our progeny? We are, after all, a people who live for the general purpose of going easy on ourselves and our “loved ones.” To take the opposite path with our very own children makes for a much harder journey -- and for what gain? Is it not to enjoy a more sentient and honest inner life? And a livelier more sensuous physical experience -- person to person, parent to child, lover to lover? You are aware for sure that from a nurturing standpoint, you as parent are almost alone in shaping your child before the age of 6. Naturally then, you worry. Worry you should! But you also need reality checks -- breaks to give your kid and yourself a breath of fresh air. Battle readiness, if you will. I used to drop off my piglets at the local sty and let the adults have their way with them. I don't recommend that classroom for Friend Mimi Maria, as she is a sweet human bean and will be much offended by the sty life. But I do offer that you start to let go of her as she develops her own inner life. She's almost ready for the Big Swings for crying out loud! I love the Big Swings. Go Mimi, go!!! I know how you feel about the removal of the breast connection. I too went through this as a piglet and wondered what my mother was thinking. For me it was: solid food is ok, but breast is the real comfort food! But it took about two weeks for me to soon forgot the breast because the brain I had developed learned to connect in a more intimate way through probing, telling eyes and my tiny little pig lips. What fun those years were! I wish I could procreate again – if only I could find a willing swine. Enough of me, get back to work the two of you!
We're using Nestle Good Start right now (per the recommendation of our doctor), but I'm not opposed to switching to a generic brand at some point. I told Jason when he asked that it's essentially the same thing, but it's cheaper b/c they don't have to pay for the brand (advertising, etc.). When Trevor goes in for his 4 month appointment, I'm going to ask which generic brand he recommends.
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